Ini's MUSE

Hello Muses, Trust your week is going well.  Wow! I got so many emails yesterday that this concluding part was due yesterday. Sorry for not posting.  I was on the move throughout.  I've gotten quite a lot of feedback on this issue - loads of questions and comments, looking at various angles and positing other viewpoints and some I will discuss in another post. We will continue from where we stopped last week. Part 3. Our world is full of contrasts: good and bad, up and down, pretty or ugly, black or white, and many other polarities. For someone to feel good they may need to make someone else feel bad. This is extremely flawed but remains one of the ways someone can delude himself or herself into feeling better. Note: In some cases, character assassination may have to be addressed either by confronting the person or taking legal action. In most situations, really, slander is tort (civil wrong – you see how useful my law degree is, lol), and ...

Hello Muses, Happy Valentine’s day. Hmmmm, love nwantintin tinz. The over-commercialization of the day makes me worry because if you are in a true and loving relationship, everyday should be valentine's day. Anyways, hope you’ve gotten your gifts and kisses and for those of you given to showing them off on social media, trust you have done so already, lol.  Na love matters. I got quite a deluge of emails on our Part 1. I was intrigued.  As I mentioned in Part 1, it is no surprise to me that a lot of people can relate to the issues and couldn’t wait for the second part. So share with others not on the mailing list and do send me your thoughts too. Here we go: Part 2: The green-eyed monster – Jealousy/Envy - lies at the heart of most, if not all character assassinations. Jealousy/Envy are natural human emotions and can be good if they help you see the possibilities available to push you to achieve your own higher goals. It however becomes a symptom of a...

2016 was quite an interesting year. We can all look back at it and some can heave a sigh of relief; others perhaps not so fast. For most people, it was riddled with the language of the season – recession. Lol, everything was recessed and placed in recession. Thankfully and hopefully, 2017 is a good year. One issue that came up very strongly for me was the issue of character assassination (what were you thinking before? Lol) and reputation damage. We saw quite a bit in the local media with books being written and blogs celebrating all sorts and  I was quite distraught at the way people applauded those without looking at the deeper underlying issues. I struggled with writing about this for a long time last year, not only because it hit home, but rather how common it was and we never talk about it.   It became expedient to write about this, when someone came wailing to my home on Monday morning, beating herself blue & black on what she heard so-and-so said about her. ...